A Bulletproof Tactic to Attract Beautiful Women
Written by Anthony Parkes on Attraction - Follow him on Twitter.
Men always try to put on a show for women.
Many make false assumptions about what women want. They end up losing a girl they could have gotten easily – by just being themselves.
Simplicity and honesty are what work best in life – not only with women. A realization I’ve come to is that a powerful way to attract women is to… visualize them as your best buddies.
“What?”
Let me explain.
Why You Should Visualize Beautiful Women as Men
1. Direct, Brutal Honesty – Honesty is something women love. Women will fall in love with you if you’re a direct, no-bullshit guy. And that’s what you are with your pals.
To be brutally honest is to be brutally confident. To be brutally confident is to be brutally sexy.
2. No More Shyness – Trembling and stuttering, that’s all part of the past now. You’re now an open, extroverted guy, with strong and confident body language, just like you are with your pals.
3. It’s the Real You – You meet up with this beautiful woman, and after a couple of dates she realizes you’re completely different to what she initially thought. That’s bad for business, man.
4. Beautiful Women are Tired of Being Idealized and taking men’s unwanted attention all day long. By refusing to idealize women, you’re standing way out of the crowd. You’re grabbing their attention.
How to Change the Way you See Beautiful Women
It’s easier than you think. If you’ve ever been friends with a hot girl without being attracted to her, you’ll know what I mean.
1. Study your behavior when you’re with your pals. How are you speaking? What’s your posture? Are you outgoing? Become aware of who you truly are.
2. Realize how guys adapt their behavior to please beautiful women. Just look around! I see it every day. “Changing” who you are to please someone is being a wussy. Stop being a wussy!
3. Look at the lack of confidence men display around beautiful women. Look for the fear of rejection in their eyes, the tension in their voice, the awkwardness of their posture. Realize how you sometimes act that way around beautiful women, and how pointless it is. Reject that attitude.
4. Practice! Every time you have the opportunity, try visualizing beautiful women as men. It works like a charm, I promise!
5. It’s one girl, and maybe you’ll blow it. So what? There are plenty of other fish to catch. She’s missing the opportunity to date a great guy (you!) – not the other way round.
6. Don’t try too hard. Stay natural. Natural is always best. Who are you? What are you like? What 3 words define you? Try to convey that image when you talk to people.
7. Play it cool… Chill. Relax. Breathe. Eat kiwis. Whatever works for you is fine.
I’ve tried this technique many times before, and I guarantee it’s a killer tactic. Good luck guys, and remember to share your success in the comments section below ;)
Image by Desirée Delgado.
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I definitely agree that acting casual is your best bet, however I think it’s important not to act ENTIRELY like you do around your friends — flirting is pretty important :)
Paul,
Well of course flirting is something you wouldn’t do with your friends and that you should definitely do with women – the purpose of the article was more to give the general “mindset” you should have, if you get me…
I’m planning on covering flirting in great depth in the next two weeks, so stay tuned ;)
hey Anthony!!
interesting stuff.
just wrote an article about being real so it’s all cooking in my mind.
but isn’t visualising a girl as your best friend NOT being real?
i used to be heavy into the pickup thing. RSD fow life ;)
… maybe you’re familiar with Tim’s stuff.
bottom line though is that when you’re viewing her as just a friend, you’re denying that core deep yumness. you’re denying the “i want that” feeling and platonifying it.
it’s safe… sure.
you won’t get blown out.
…and it takes real raw courage to step to a girl and act exactly how you feel – that you want her.
platonifying and making it a ‘friends’ thing is just an easy way out.
i.e. it’s full chode :D
haha.
keep well mate
alex – unleash reality
Alex,
Just read your post, there’s some good stuff in it. I get what you’re saying Alex, but that doesn’t mean you’re not yourself – or unreal. To me, you’re untrue to yourself when you try to change your core values – these are things that define who you are. Changing your mindset is changing your take on things, not necessarily who you are.
To play devil’s advocate, reading any form of personal development and applying it would be being unreal – if you take what you’re saying to the extreme… Say, your article about not trying to please everyone might be being unreal… if by nature you try to do just that. By giving personal development advice, you’re necessarily motivating people to change. It’s right in the name: Development implies change.
Keep up the posting ;)
Anthony
but not being able to talk to women isn’t a core value thing. it’s a manifestation of a whole bunch of random kaka.
and i def don’t think that your core values define who you are. nothing can define who you are because you’re introducing something outside of who you are. the perspective inherent in the idea of who you are makes it impossible to have an absolute idea of who you are. it can only be experienced, not explained. to play devil’s advocate ;)
you can go as far as you want with the idea. reductio ad absurdum.
but.
that’s not what i’m saying.
i’m not saying that change is a bad thing. but denial is. definitely. and pretending you just want to be her friend when actually you want to devour her – that’s not a good thing.
it’s a path straight to chode hell and a whole bunch of psychological issues.
if that’s any clearer ;)
there are ample people going on about this kind of thing. just seems fake to me. denying the “core values” you refer to. and just all round yuck.
keep well bra
alex
You don’t deny the fact that you want to bang the sh*t out of her – in fact you still flirt with her and show sexual interest. People never see us, only what we project. And if you “visualize” women that way, it’s just a mindset you’re taking to show status and confidence. You start saying what you want to say, and not what you think women want to hear – just like around your pals. That doesn’t exclude signs of sexual attraction. In fact, you’re not denying anything – at all. You’re uninhibited. You are simply trying to get into the same comfort you are with people you know well.
In fact, this article is about being real. It’s about being an honest, no-BS guy.
I guess we should agree to disagree then – this is what I see working around me and what works for me, even if it seems wrong – I agree it does.
What would you advocate then?