Eye-Contact and Flirting: What You Need to Know
Written by Anthony Parkes on Attraction - Follow him on Twitter.
“Eyes are the gateway to the soul” – Anonymous
Eye contact is an extremely powerful way to project confidence and get a hint of what a woman is thinking. Here are the ways you can use eye contact to become a flirting king and a body language guru:
Is She Attracted? Learn How To Read Eye Contact
If you’re able to correctly read what a woman’s eyes are telling you, you’ll be able to collect a lot of valuable information that’ll tell you what you should do next.
1. Eye contact itself is already a sign of attraction – the longer the better. So if you’re able to spark it correctly, congratulations! Studies have shown that couples tended to look at each other 95% of the time they were speaking together.
2. If she’s smiling with her lips slightly parted as she looks at you, she wants you to kiss her.
3. If her pupils (the black part of the eye) are wide and dilated, that means she’s attracted to you. When the pupils are wide, maximum light enters the eye: she wants to see as much of you as she possibly can.
Take into account lighting though: if it’s sunny or the lighting is strong, her pupils will be tiny. That doesn’t mean you don’t attract her. Reversely, if lighting is dim, her pupils will be dilated, and that doesn’t mean she is attracted.
Egg-heads did a study where two identical pictures of a woman were shown to men, except in one of the two where the size of the pupils had been increased using Photoshop. 75% of the men reported finding the woman with larger pupils more attractive. Wide, baby eyes are a desireable trait for women.
4. If she quickly glances down at your lips while you stare into each others’ eyes, she wants you to kiss her. She might subconsciously be imagining what it would be to kiss those amazing lips of yours.
5. If she licks her lips, or touches her hair, or has her head slightly tilted, she’s attracted to you man!
How to Use Eye Contact to Project Confidence
You want to lock your eyes into hers, and give her a very light smile or grin.
If you point your head upwards while looking at her, it’ll show domination, power, and insouciance.
If you point your head slightly downwards, you will project determination – these are the “killer eyes” that make women feel like you’re undressing them. If you use this, she’ll feel like you can completely read what she thinks.
As a rule of thumb, never break eye contact, as it shows insecurity. If you are looking at a woman (but no eye contact) and then she looks at you, don’t quickly glance somewhere else! Women like to know they’re being watched.
I remember one day I was giving a girl the “killer eyes”, and we were alone and standing three feet apart. She would look into my eyes and smile, but couldn’t hold it for longer than 4-5 seconds, at which point she would look somewhere else and then look back at me.
She asked me in a very quiet voice “what?” and “why are you looking at me like that?”, at which point I noticed she glanced at my lips. Very slowly, I leaned in and she didn’t dare move an inch – our eyes were still glued together.
When I got close enough to her lips, she wrapped her arms around me and started stroking my hair. That was one of the most amazing kisses I ever had.
Eye contact is definitely the most complicated and revealing aspect of body language. Here are two more articles that can help you unravel the mysteries of eye contact:
Now go out there and become the next big thing using your own two eyes!
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good article. I’m curious, did you learn this from experience and observation?
I like it. It is honest, simple and informative.
Hey,
This article is written mostly from experience, but I conducted additional research which seemed to fortify what I had learnt.
Thanks for the compliment ;)
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Your advice makes so much sense!