The Secrets to Build Charisma that Women Love
Written by Anthony Parkes on Featured, Seduction - Follow him on Twitter.
You’ve crossed that type of guy – the guy that every girl likes. It looks like he’s connected to them and gives them exactly what they want. Women are on their knees with this guy. He isn’t necessarily extremely good-looking, but always gets the girl he wants.
How does he do that? He isn’t smarter, hotter, richer, fitter, or funnier than the “regular” guy – but he figured it out: He found what worked with women and how to make a lasting impression.
It All Comes Down to Charisma
That’s the guy every man should be. That guy attracts women like moths to a flame because he’s charismatic. So charisma is what you’re looking to build. Let’s decompose charisma into it’s 5 core elements:
1. Confidence
Confidence is charisma’s vital ingredient. The charismatic guy is dramatic, and clinches this through what he says, how he speaks, and his body language. Confidence is gripping. At a friend’s house for example, the charismatic guy would be laidback in the sofa with his legs apart, and interacting with people. Instead, the “regular” guy would be sitting upstrait with his knees close together, sipping on his drink while throwing prudent looks across the room. See where I’m getting? That’s the type of confidence you’re aiming for. Confidence is key.
2. Honesty
Honesty goes in cahoots with confidence. Our friend Mr. Charisma speaks his mind, whichever the consequences. He’s crude, unrefined. He’s confident and displays his emotions. When he doesn’t like something, he’ll say it and if he loves or likes something, he’ll say it too. That separates him from the Jerk, who only complains, and the nice guy, who doesn’t complain. That’s the “magic” with the charismatic guy: his confidence is his outer layer of “protection” against potential attacks, but inside he’s soft, he’s human. And that, my fellow reader, is what women call a “sensitive guy”. It’s really just a truly honest guy.
3. Truth Regarding Himself
Nothing holds back Mr. Charisma: he isn’t worried about prejudice, or what people think. He behaves like he wants to. His confidence allows him to do so. Because Mr. Charisma is himself, he stands out from the others. He isn’t just some random guy, no: he’s different, he’s unique.
The charismatic guy acts himself, lives his life fully, as opposed to the nice guy, who is shaped by society’s morale and judgements. That makes Mr. Charisma a happier person, and not only women but everyone is attracted to happy people. It fills the air around them, creates an atmosphere. Now that’s charisma ;).
4. Respect
The major tool Mr. Charisma uses is the respect he has for other people. Once again that makes him different from the jerk, who is a scuzzbag. A guy with Charisma gives women a chance to speak their mind, to talk openly and candidly. The charismatic guy feels connected to the people around him, he truly loves everyone. That’s why girls open up to him so easily, because women feel that he can understand them, that he can truly listen.
5. Flirting
Mr. Charisma flirts a lot – you should too. Flirt with every girl, tease them. Smile. But be careful, you don’t want to give away what you really think – it’s all about illusion. Women have got to believe you’re never really theirs – that’s what a “regular guy” does. You’ve got to keep them hanging on. Show’em that you care, but at the same time be a little arrogant. Mixing is the key. Show’em everything and its opposite, it’ll keep girls interested and magnetized by you, just like moths to a flame ;) – Now that’s a mysterious guy.
How to Become the Charismatic Guy that Women Love
Now that we’ve broken down the five elements that define charisma, here are some tips to help you build yours:
1. Be Yourself – I can’t stress how important this is. To be unique and unpeerless you’ve got to act yourself, and to do that, you’ve got to be confident. Everybody’s special, what counts is what you show, the glimpse that others catch of you. Adopt the no-censorship method: do everything you feel like doing. Women want authentic men.
2. Listen – Be open, treat people with respect. Really listen to them. Love them. Only then will you really, trully understand someone. Women can sense that, and trust me, it’s unputdownable ;).
3. Build Your Confidence – That means build your self-esteem, and build your motivation. Act like you don’t give a damn. Don’t fear rejection, and no one will ever reject you. Don’t let anyone break you. Show us what you’ve got!
4. Flirt – You should tease women, be cocky and arrogant, but show them that you care… a little. Become enigmatic, and give’em a dose of flirting.
Parting Words
If you apply everything mentionned above and start acting confident, human, and open, trust me, chicks will pour around you. Heaps of’em. These tips were gold to me – they literally make you glow.
And now guys, I leave my pen to you: What are your stories? What are your tips and ideas to build charisma?
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When flirting and trying to be mysterious (to “keep her hooked”), it can be a very fine line. You don’t want to come off as wishy-washy, or like you can’t make up your mind about whether you like this girl or not. Mixed signals can be a good thing sometimes, but if you don’t think your lady friends are into that sort of thing, it might be better to just be upfront about how you feel.
Scott,
We’ve had that debate on the JKTC Café.
Here, when I mention mysterious, I mention it in the “flirting” category, and flirting is a game. To me, flirting is like hide and seek, it’s like chess.
I’m definitely not advocating sending mixed signals as your everyday line-of-action! But I agree comes up as unclear in the article, I’ll write an additional short paragraph to explain what I mean, I don’t want any guy to get it wrong!
Anthony
That was beautiful. You said like exactly what i was thinking.