How to Have a More Attractive Personality
Written by Anthony Parkes on Attraction, Seduction - Follow him on Twitter.
Do you wish you could glue women to you?
To have a more attractive personality, many will advocate being someone you aren’t.
That’s not true. You simply have to express yourself differently. Attractiveness isn’t about who you are, it’s about what you show.
Let me tell you the best way to have a more attractive personality, in four simple words:
Stay away from boring! Anything is better than boring. Anything.
Boring is doing what everybody else does. To have a more attractive personality, you need to stand out from the crowd!
Let me say that again: stay away from boring. And now let’s get into a little more detail:
Be Unpredictable
This is what’s got me the most success with women so far. Why? you’re far as hell from boring. She can’t guess your next move. Keep her on her toes, thinking about you. And that’s what you want, right?
How do you be unpredictable?. Send her mixed signals. Be ambiguous. Spend time with her, and then be a little distant. People like to be tortured (believe me).
Example of being unpredictable:: You have something great or really exciting to tell her. Say “We need to talk”.
Be Dominant and Aggressive
Women want a man.
The funny thing is that women don’t admit this: Egg-heads discovered that women definitely prefer dominant men, but say they favor “nice guys” when it comes to their soul mate.
To all men out there, start showing your virility! Expose it, act like you own everyone.
Example of being dominant and aggressive: act. Become a man of action. Decide where you’re taking your date instead of asking what she would you prefer.
Give Her Attention
You all know women love attention. This is important to have a more attractive personality.
Be careful, there’s a fine line here: you don’t want to be the nice guy, buying her flowers, telling her how important she is to you, asking her if she wants you to pick her up. Boooring…
Example of Attention-giving: Sparking eye-contact, flirting.
Be Detached
This is very hard to do, but it’s the key to sparking attraction. You shouldn’t ever be chasing women, they should be chasing you. Act as if everything she did had absolutely no impact whatsoever on you.
She’ll wonder why you aren’t responding to her “cues” and flirting. She’ll ask questions to herself like:
- Does he actually like me?
- Does he care about me?
- Why isn’t he responding?
People like torturing themselves with questions. If she learns you love her and you’re not acting indifferent, you’re out (really, at least at an early stage).
Have an Actual Personality
No woman wants the typical guy, you need something unique. You’ve got to be yourself and stand out.
Don’t fall for the stereotypes, else you’ll look plain.
Example of having personality: Be impactable.
Be Funny
Laughter releases endorphins, the neurotransmitter of pleasure – these are also released during orgasms. If you make her laugh, her brain will unconsciously link you to the release of endorphins: she will like you.
How do you become funny even when you’re not? Read how to be funny from the Telegraph. Here are simple tips:
- Make fun of yourself
- Make fun of someone she doesn’t like (it’s mean, but works)
- Time the punch line
- Be really specific, or
- Generalize
- Show confidence
Have Class
Dress fashionably. Show you have style. Read Kinowear to get men fashion tips.
If you don’t dress fashionably, you’ll come down as a guy who doesn’t care about his image – and doesn’t care about himself either.
Dressing well is a sign of respect. No woman wants to date a man draped in old rags!
Be Confident
Confidence is key. It’s a killer to have a more attractive personality.
A pinch of overconfidence is good too. Marry it with a little arrogance and humor and you’re off into women’s stratosphere. Which is nice right?
Again, every man should be confident. Women expect it – it’s one of the main traits of masculinity. Try to avoid insecurity or you’ll look like a total dork.
I’ll be writing more about building confidence soon, so subscribe to stay tuned
Be Romantic and Imaginative
You have to let go of social conditioning.
Free your mind, think outside of the box. I love discussing feelings and thoughts with women before I date them, it allows a strong emotional bond to link you.
Romantic = Expressing feelings. Women find that sexy as hell.
Don’t be needy and whinny though, what I mean is live through your feelings and embrace them.. That’ll make you a little unpredictable too, which is good.
Warning: never force yourself to do something for the sake of “being romantic”. Do every action because you truly feel like doing it.
Example of being Romantic: Breakfast in bed, surprise escapade to the countryside, “I love you” note on her pillow.
Have Dignity
This is a must, and I don’t hear it mentioned often. You’re not in it for sex. I never talk to women because I want to have sex.
Respect women and they will love you, and frankly many guys don’t. Women aren’t objects – machism, when it’s not used for being cocky is insulting to both women and men.
Keep your dignity and women will notice it. Treat your girl right at all times.
Wrapping It Up
If you’ve read this article carefully, you’ll notice there’s a great deal of contradiction. In my experience, women like guys that are contradicting.
Always remember, stay away from boring. Become an observer, and check out how typical guys handle women:
1. “Hello, I was wondering if it was somehow possible to meet someday and go have a drink someplace.” Really nice and attention-giving. So predictable and :yawn: boring. No thrill, no excitement.
2. “Hey sweetheart, want to go back to my place?” – Where’s the respect and dignity?
Stay away from these types of guy, and your success with women will skyrocket. Guaranteed.
Guys, what are your experiences and tips to have a more attractive personality?
Image by Simon Pais-Thomas.
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Jae from Kinowear.com has published an excellent article on a similar topic:
Building an Attractive Personality.
Enjoy :)
dumb.. its about storytelling.
Thanks for the link to the article on Kinowear, I wouldn’t have found it without you ;-)
I couldn’t agree more on the stay away from boring part, it’s crucial, not only for success with women, but also for happiness (and fun)
Take care.
Alex,
I appreciate the nice words, saw you commented on Jae’s article too!
Boredom is what I’ve noticed most guys fall into, so I thought I would write a post about it.
Looking forward to your next post!
Anthony
Contradictory actions and words can be extremely frustrating. Personally I disagree with that part. I haven’t yet met a woman who is “magnetized” by guys who have conflicting personalities at different times of day. Other than that, it’s a good article. Too many guys try to go overboard to try to get a girl, when in reality their best bet is to stop trying and just be themselves. Act like you can have any woman you want, not just the one you are currently chasing.
Scott,
Like I’ve said here and here, I don’t want people to get me wrong on this one, I’ll have to clarify exactly what I meant some time soon.
I think I’m going to compile a post of short, one line advice. I’ll include Act like you can have any woman you want, not just the one you are currently chasing, which is an excellent tip!
Anthony
I want to attract one girl she is a family girl she is not at impressed my world she is not interested to love me what i can do my is ture plz help me