How to Be Mysterious and Attractive
Written by Anthony Parkes on Attraction - Follow him on Twitter.
Mystery. Women love it.
But why are mysterious guys so attractive to women? Why do they magnetize women that much? How do they do it?
These questions are harder to answer. If you want to know how to be insanely mysterious and attractive, read on.
Why is Mystery so Attractive?
Studies have shown that attraction is similar to a state of frustration. People are attracted when they have a need, and when that need is not satisfied – fully.
There are a couple of key reasons to why being mysterious is so damn sexy:
1. It’s not boring – Truly mysterious guys that intrigue women are pretty rare. So when women find one, the guy stands out and projects a strong aura around him. Mystery is instant charisma.
2. Curiosity – Human beings are naturally curious. Being mysterious is like teasing someone. Women want to know more about you, yet you don’t divulge everything. You’re creating a need. Women will need you.
3. Evoking – By being mysterious, you let women fill in the gap. You have them thinking about you, imagining who you could possibly be. Imagination is strongly linked to feelings and emotions. Mystery triggers these – instantly.
A mysterious guy is attractive because of what he evokes. Mystery is exciting and enthralling.
Mystery doesn’t imply being quiet or socially withdrawn. I have a good friend who does this excellently. Lots of people come up to me and says, “Hey, I hang out with Tom a lot, but I realize I don’t know anything about him. It’s weird!” (Tom, smile if you’re reading :) ).
Tom has loads of friends, and always got the women he wanted. He has strong social status and goes out a lot. But he doesn’t talk about himself, and changes the subject hastily when people do talk about him. That’s the key.
7 Tips to Be Mysterious and Attractive
1. Open-ended Questions – These fuel the mystery. Chose your words carefully, avoid being too direct with what you want. Make the woman jump through the hoops you set. Be the one testing her.
2. Double Meanings and Ambiguity – To be mysterious and attractive, ambiguity is a must. Stay vague, and try to insert double meanings in what you say. Make sure there are many different interpretations to anything you say.
3. Smile – That superior, know-it-all, come-and-get-it smile. One good smile can make a woman fall for you – it’s happened to me, and women have told me so.
4. Strong Eye-Contact – Be bold, undress her with your eyes. It makes her feel uncomfortable, but it gives you extreme power. The “I gotcha” type of look works perfectly.
5. Focus on Her – Like Tom does. Women talk a lot about themselves, let her do so and don’t complain. Try to talk about emotions and feelings, instead of plain old facts (e.g. stay away from boring conversations about jobs, hobbies, etc…) Bring it on!
6. Confidence – To be mysterious and attractive, you must have the initiative. You’ve got to be superior (Note: that doesn’t mean arrogant or pompous). Stop being a Wussy.
7. Stoicism – Build self-control. Do everything slowly and calmly. Keep your voice down. Don’t act like you’re impressed. Restrain from showing too much emotion (in your body language). Read “The Stranger” by Albert Camus. Allow sensations, but keep emotions from showing.
Being mysterious and attractive usually triggers intense flirting. I’ll be covering flirting and sharing tips in the next few days, so keep sharp for more on mystery and flirting. Subscribe by RSS or email to get notified as soon as the article is published.
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awwwwsome post.
now this is what i’m talking about.
as long as you’re not trying to be mysterious. that’s unattractive. trying sucks. being rocks.
…it’s not even the sherlock holmes kind of spooky mystery.
the real thing that works in my experience is not trying to get her to like you. ya know… not trying for rapport. not supplicating.
trying is yuck.
that means things like talking less, not explaining yourself, not trying to impress.
that’ll create yum mystery. she’ll be thinking, “wow. all other guys like me. but he’s not fawning all over me. wtf?!” and be attracted.
power stuff.
ususally don’t like lists of things but this rocks. stumbled.
keep well bra
alex – unleashreality
Alex,
Thank you so much! I appreciate it – a lot ;)
You’re right: it’s not about trying, it’s about being and doing. Taking action, being bold, and confident in what you do and how you do. Trying implies failure, and that’s out of question, right? ;)
Anthony
also, add a stumbleupon icon (and twitter) for easier internet pimpage ;)
see my site and just use permalink syntax.
i’m a closet geek. without the closet. ;)
Alex,
I’ve momentarily deleted the SU link because it wasn’t well placed and optimized. I’m thinking about where to put it and how to make it convert – it’ll be up soon, I promise!
Keep me tuned ;)
Anthony
Update: Done ;)
Quick question: Why don’t you put your URL when you comment? It would save me time from typing your URL like 20 times a day :p
Looking forward to you accepting my friend request on SU (I’m fruitslicer)… hint hint!
haha.
it’s some issue with your cookies where it doesn’t remember my url so i just don’t type it.
don’t really use stumbleupon for social stuff.
add me on facebook ;)
link is on my site… and check out the placement of the buttons on my site – getting a bunch of stumbles and rts…
actually, i really digg your buttons as they are now.
they’re just a lil too huge. they drown out the text. slick font tho.
Yeah, that’s what I thought too – at least it’s a clear call to action… I’ll make them smaller.
I’m getting a surge of traffic from SU it’s amazing! I like you haha.
I used the same font for my logo. It’s the type they use to make roadsigns in France (it’s called “Caracteres”).
If a man acted like this towards me, I wouldn’t give him the time of day. I don’t think any woman wants some who thinks he’s “superior” to her. The best way to get an intelligent woman’s attention is just to be open, interested, and confident. Mystery can only hold someone’s attention for as long as it takes them to see through it.