A Foolproof Way to Build Confidence

Written by Anthony Parkes on Confidence - Follow him on Twitter.

Confidence is sexy. Building confidence is hard.

I’d like to share with you a concrete way you can build confidence to get more women. It’s called starting a project, but not just any project.

This project triples the benefits – that’s right. It improves three areas of your life, but it requires focus and determination… Still with me?

Why You Should Start Lifting Weights Today

Weight-lifting is a surefire tactic to build confidence and get more women. Let me explain why:

1. You Feel Good in your Body

Feeling good in your body translates into more extroversion and comfort around others, especially women. You feel less self-conscious about your body. It allows you to free yourself of self-limited beliefs, like “looks matter to women”.

Yes guys, big news, looks do matter to women. Every human being experiences physical attraction. But more importantly, well-built guys think that looks matter. As a result, they are more confident around women, and that multiplies their chances of success by like, a thousand.

Weight-lifting allows you to do just that – build the body you want – if you’re invested and committed to it.

Start by feeling good about yourself, then worry about making women feel good about you (and your body).

2. You Feel Good in Your Head

Egg-heads have proved that exercising is good for your mental health too. Regular exercise makes you less nervous and happier.

This means calmer body language. You convey a happy and soothing image. All of a sudden, you’re “cool”. You get known for being a chilled out, relaxed guy.

This makes you look in control. Projecting self-control and confidence is a no-brainer when it comes to women. They absolutely love this.

Special Bonus: You’re Extra Sexy

Women like active guys – guys that do stuff with their lives other than sitting in front of the TV with a can of beer.

Doing sports shows you like to compete (all sports are a form of “competition”: you face either yourself or an opponent, or both). Competing is a fundamentally masculine trait. Yes guys, doing sports is a manly thing.

Women buy manly traits. Start weight-lifting, and all of a sudden you’re that sexy, sweaty guy who likes to get dirty…

Special Bonus #2: You Feel Horny

In short, exercising gets you on an “emotional trip”. Feelings and experiences are intensified.

And there are many, many more benefits of exercising.

5 Tips to Help You Get There

1. Set Reasonable Goals – Setting your standards too high will lead to deception and eventually, you’ll quit – even though you’ve been doing great! It’s the little things that build confidence.

Small goals + Big actions = Success.

2. Don’t be too harsh with yourself, look at the brighter side of things – it makes life considerably easier, trust me.

Failure is a problem only if it kills your motivation. Make failure inspire you to do better next time, to invest more dedication and effort into what you undertake. Turn fear into your ally, and you’re better off than 99% of the guys out there.

3. Don’t compare yourself to others. Guess what? Everybody’s different. Some get results quicker and easier than others, some have to battle through harder and longer.

If it’s harder for you, it’ll only make you prouder when you succeed. Don’t let anything or anyone demotivate you – you’re the only one who can do that.

4. Concrete focus and motivation – This is a big one. People want quick success, jump into a project, don’t get the results they expected and jump into another “quick-success project”. They end up never achieving anything.

Success requires focus. And commitment. When starting anything, always give 200% of what you’ve got. And stay focused on what you want most. No need to waste that energy somewhere else.

5. Join a Community. As much as others can kill your motivation, when others are undertaking a similar project, it can boost your motivation – so much.

More experienced people can help you get better, can give you tips and advice. You can find yourself a “mentor”. It makes life easier too.

Let’s Get You Started – Start Pumping Iron!

Once you’ve decided to give weight-lifting your best shot, I suggest you go straight to StrongLifts, a site focused on helping you gaining muscle.

I’ve tested many different programs to build strength and muscle. StrongLifts is the best resource out there. Hands down. Here’s why:

The blog’s author, Mehdi, is extremely supportive.
The articles cover all topics related to strength training – technique, safety, nutrition etc…
Look strong and actually BE strong.
Do you want to gain weight or lose weight? It’s all there!
A community of hundreds of other men helping each other out every day.
It’s 100% FREE.